On the night between thuresday and friday a young student woman got forced into an auto and got abused of several men. The woman got dropped of later in the night and she went to the hospital, in total shock after what happened. The case is filed as a rape and the chef security desided to resigne the day after. Just like the lack of security was the main reason that this happened in Manipal.
Well, let me tell you that the lack of security it not the reason why this happened. Here is enough of security, patroling polices and cerfuw left to be over.
No, the reason is how the basic communication and relationship between indian men and women is being done. Women should not be involved with men until she's married. Like, the more we seperate men and women the better. This is not practised all over the country. And there is a big difference between living in the cities and on the country side. But hey, root is still well planted in society. And so is the way women is being treated. And how men tend to still believe that certain way of treatment is ok.
I had a friend who told me about this young woman who is admitted to the psych ward at our hospital here in Manipal. She resently got marriaged. Arranged of course. She had never been dating, and so she was also a virgin. The marriage was arranged, and the wedding night came. After a few days she started to act very strange, and she ended up at the psych ward. Her huspand had not molest her or had not done anything against her will. But at the psych ward she keeps telling about a certain uncomfortable feeling that is present in her body, like something is crawling inside her, and that he is completely changed. She can't be around men and she get scared when people come too close..
A sudden intim meeting with the opposite sex could frighten anyone of course. But if man and woman was created by God almighty (as the majority of our planet population believe in), I believe God did the creation with the purpos to complement each other, to stand on the same side and to be able to help each other. NOT to be seperated and to look down on and to treat the other sex as less valuable. Because that is just what happens when this kind of crime is commited - men taking rights they engage they have over the opposite sex making her less valuable because he takes away her rights.
So, be able to complement each other we need to know about each other. And that will only happen during interaction, trial and error and trial again and mutual communication. And it can not be made during silence, with distanse and with sudden surprises in the bedroom.